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I followed all the rules straight into a breakdown.

As a plan for changing your life, I do not recommend it.

I write and speak about the emotional, mental, physical, and financial costs of holding everything together while your world is coming apart. And what becomes possible when you finally stop.

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People tell me things.
I've stopped questioning it.

Wherever I go, people think I look familiar.
Strangers confess their secrets to me.
Travelers ask me for directions in countries where I don't speak the language.

My mother and I play a game called Three Pieces of Information. We’ll pick a stranger, sometimes a couple or a group. We might see them riding the train or in a restaurant. And we’ll construct an entire life about them from three observable facts.

I'm convinced this is what made me a writer.

Read My Work
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“I have some thoughts.”

Speaking

Talks about pressure, reinvention, caregiving, creativity,
and figuring out what to do when there are no easy answers.

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One-On-One Advisory

You May Ask Yourself

For people navigating complicated decisions, high-pressure environments,
and lives that look successful from the outside but no longer feel entirely right on the inside.

You don’t want to blow up your life.
But you do want it to stop feeling like someone else’s.

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You deserve a better answer than “Whatever.”

We were the generation nobody worried about. Self-sufficient by necessity. Independent by default. We let ourselves in after school, figured things out on our own, and got so good at not needing anything from anyone that eventually we forgot we were allowed to.

We were cynical enough to see through the machine and responsible enough to work our asses off to succeed inside it anyway. We didn't sell out exactly. We just did what we were supposed to. And somewhere between the college degree and the mortgage and the kids and the job we got good at but never actually loved, the life we imagined and the person we were going to be just quietly didn't happen.

We were handed the bill for everyone else's choices and paid it without complaining.

It’s time to stop letting the days go by.

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Kudos & Accolades

  • "What Stefanie does is connect you to your backbone. Things that you would struggle to come up with yourself, Stefanie helps you find them within you. She helped me pause, think, and reorganize a plan of attack—not once, but twice. I cannot recommend Stefanie enough to anyone keen on finding their voice."

    ~Philip Szeszol

  • "Stef is magnetic, a natural leader, a visionary creative, an enthralling storyteller, and the person you want in the room with you when the work feels impossible. With Stef by your side, you know you'll be able to crack the problem together."

    ~ Janeen Ritson

  • "Her wit, wisdom, acumen, and compassion make any creative endeavor better for her presence. She commands a room, weaves an amazing story, builds a strong relationship with her clients, and fearlessly champions truly good creative ideas."

    ~ Heather Linnell

  • “From her impeccable work ethic to her wicked sense of humor, Stefanie has a lot to offer. She is a decisive leader, a fair judge of work and character, and a skilled magician to the clients. Stefanie is also a lovely human being who understands, listens, and knows how to make everything better, smoother, and kinder for her team.”

    ~ Yana Hunt

  • "Stef doesn't need much to make something beautiful—she listens with a honed ear and picks up on the subtlest prompts to make work that's sharp and smart."

    ~ Sarah Dick

  • "It's rare to find someone as motivated, thoughtful, and kind."

    ~ Ben Waldman

  • “Stefanie is the kind of leader I aspire to be: collaborative, yet powerful. Loyal, yet flexible. Empathetic, yet direct. A keen love of craft, with incredible insight and intuition. She has the uncanny ability to find the most salient kernel of truth in an idea to make it great and also give her team the room to play. She creates a safe space for everyone who is lucky enough to work with her and can navigate the trickiest situations with grace and humor.”

    ~ Erica Boynton

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